Divorce is something that is not desired by all couples. For this reason, divorce is impossible without negative emotions, such as anger, sadness, guilt, and so on. Additionally, a divorce may happen with a legal problem, so perhaps you also need to hire a certified attorney and don’t forget to learn more about divorce laws too.
However, divorce doesn’t always have to be filled with sadness, contention, and tears. You can also still be happy during the divorce process, by doing these three things:
1. Change your view of divorce
No matter who causes divorce, look at the divorce process as a step forward that will lead your life in a better direction. If divorce occurs because your partner is having an affair, think of it as an opportunity to get away from the wrong person, and a way to make you no longer hurt. Believe that after this there will be a better life waiting for you.
Fake it until you make it. It means that it doesn’t matter if at first you just pretend to be happy or force yourself to look at something positive. Later, you will get used to smiling, really looking at the positive things, and forget the negative things that happened during a divorce. If you keep wallowing in negative feelings without trying to get up, then you will continue to be stuck there.
3. Change your ‘story’
Most people who experience divorce must think badly about themselves. Suppose they think that they are not worthy of love, cannot get a better person, are not beautiful enough to be abandoned by a partner, or think that they are always wrong to choose a partner. These kinds of stories and assumptions will gather in your brain and prevent you from being truly happy. Instead, you have to have a positive mindset about yourself. Believe that you are quite charming, you deserve a better partner and believe that this divorce is a gateway to a better life for you.